The idea of adult and virginity in the same sentence is an oxymoron to both secular and christians alike. Most Christians do not expect an older man or woman to be a virgin despite not being married. However, this is not true and interestingly there is a stigma, a very bad one associated with this phenonenon.
The assumption is there are alot more adult virgins than anticipated. Adult virginity is not just about religious beliefs but for the adult virgin in the church this may be the more logical reason. However, unlike their younger counterpart, it is not a proud state of being anymore. It is arbitary at what specific age it is considered the point when being sexless stops being a virtue and becomes a curse. I doubt you will see someone over 21 publicity supporting purity rings and pledges.
I was watching an episode of a tv show and one of the characters is a beautiful career woman who happens to be a virgin waiting for marriage which never came in the appropriate time. The character would disclose her ‘status’ on her dates and the men would flee and never to return. That episode ended with her having sex. The moral of the story is this may be the same issue for adult virgins even in the church.
If this situation is true in real life, then the question is why would a man run away from a woman in which he would be the first to “pop her cherry?” I can not image that this is a pleasant conversation to have expecially for men. Even though a man is in the church, there is still an expectation that he has conquered a few ladies and knows his way in the bedroom and with a woman’s body. So who does an adult Christian turn to when this is their issue? I can imagine that being an older virgin would be as scary to discuss as sex is in the church.
The times have changed drastically when being terminally sexless is a shame and having multiple experiences or partners the proud moment to share with the world. The ‘friends with benefit’ is the more popular phenomenon. I wonder too how I would react if a man over 30 disclosed that he is a virgin? Would I be freaked out or find it a very pleasant challenge to put my kama sutra book to good use? 🙂
Does an adult virgin have any pride about his/her status anymore or s/he is just waiting for the day to get rid of it? Jesus was a virgin until his death at age 33 so there is nothing for an adult Christian virgin to feel shame about. However, in this day an age, shame is the most likely feeling adult virgins experience.