By Guest Blogger Jumaine Jones
This is the time of year where many celebrate Valentine’s Day. Retailers are already stacked with teddy bears, candy, and special Valentine’s Day packages. Every where we turn, it seems like the world is saturated with hearts and splattered with red and pink. Men are rushing to grab roses and women are anxious to receive them. Yet, some of us will not receive roses. We will sit at home while our friends go out with their significant others. Valentine’s Day can be very difficult for those who have no one to share it with. Valentine’s Day can even be challenging for people who are in difficult relationships. The challenges in the relationship make Valentine’s Day a difficult one to share. We can either complain about not having a date or leverage Valentine’s Day for something beneficial. Here are four suggestions.
Fan Your Love For God
If you are a Christian, there is good news. You are in a relationship with the Creator of the universe. Unlike the person whom you long to share your affection, God is dying to spend time with you. In Revelations 3:20, Jesus told the Church in Sardis, “Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and will dine with him, and he with Me (NASB).” Spending quiet moments with God reminds us that we are not alone. Reflecting on God’s love for us allows us to realize that we are truly loved and appreciated. Jesus Christ loves us so much that He died on the cross for us. How many people are willing to die for us? God loves us with an everlasting, steadfast love.
Show Love Towards Others
Valentine’s Day is a good time to show others love and appreciation. Mark 12:31 says, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” While we yearn for romance, people around us are in need of love. Some are being used and abused. Friends experience heartbreak and rejection. Men and women live on the street without support. Try showing love towards others through acts of kindness. Buy food for a beggar on the street. Write notes of encouragement to friends or family members or treat a co-worker out to lunch. We can even spend time volunteering for our church or an organization that serves others.
In my book, Lost In Love: Navigating the Five Relationship Terrains, I write about being in the Wilderness of Spectating. This is where we see others experience the relationship we desire. Instead of being jealous of people who are in romantic relationships, we can celebrate them. We may respond to the idea of celebrating others by thinking, “Isn’t that putting salt on my wound?” Celebrating others not only benefits those we celebrate, but us as well. We get to sow into our future. In the same way that we want others to celebrate our possible future, we must be willing to celebrate others now. Instead of withdrawing from friends who are in relationships, we can draw close and be supportive. Galatians 6:7 teaches that we reap what we sow. If we want to reap celebration, we must sow it.
We don’t need a date in order to enjoy the things around us. We can take this time to enjoy life! We can be happy and filled with joy, even if someone chooses not to show us affection. We can have a spa day and pamper ourselves. We can take ourselves out to dinner or go outdoors and enjoy nature. We can do an activity we’ve always wanted to do, but kept putting off. Ecclesiastes 5:18 teaches us to eat, drink, and enjoy our labor during the few years God has given us. Every day we live is one less day we have on earth. Time is fleeting and waits for no one.
Psalm 118:24 says, “This is the day that the Lord has made; We will rejoice and be glad in it (NKJV)” God has given us each day as a gift to enjoy. Valentine’s Day is simply another day created by God. Regardless of our relationship status, we can find a reason to rejoice.
Jumaine Jones is the Lead Pastor of The Bridge in Silver Spring, MD (www.thebridgedc.org) and author of Lost In Love: Navigating the Five Relationship Terrains, available on Amazon.com